F Gratitude: We Swear This Works!

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F Gratitude: We Swear This Works!

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Get your mind out of the gutter! “F gratitude” stands for “find gratitude” which can sometimes be hard AF!

Gratitude 101:

Gratitude is a cozy, thankful and fulfilling feeling. A person who is grateful does not constantly try to seek for more, but rather, they appreciate what they already have- tangibly or intangibly. While practicing gratitude has so many powerful benefits for your life, like improving self-esteem, enhancing empathy, and even helping you sleep better, it is not always easy to cultivate when it feels like stuff is hitting the fan.

Sure- practicing gratitude can be simple when you are:

  • appreciating the sun shining in a clear blue sky
  • cruising down the highway with the wind blowing in your hair, or 
  • reading this blog while you sip a hot cup of tea or coffee.

But could you find that same joy if perhaps you got a sunburn from staying outside a bit too long admiring that blue sky? Could you find happiness in that same car if there was  2 hours worth of bumper to bumper traffic that would make you late for your meeting? Would you still be grateful for that hot drink if upon taking your first sip you melted the tip of your tongue to the point you believed-for a split second- that you’d never be able to taste anything again?

Challenge the Challenges:

What if in challenging moments like these, your new, favorite, four letter F word became find? What if in the moments where you want to scream, or cry, or cuss- that you swear to yourself that you will search for the deeper meaning waiting to be uncovered?  If gratitude is about being appreciative for what you already have without needing to seek more- and all you have is a crappy situation- could you still find the metaphorical rose that eventually emerges out of a heaping pile of poo?

Because what if that sunburn had a message for you? Possibly about balance and that too much of anything could be harmful? Would you be grateful that you learned to set a timer for next time, or wear extra sunblock, or to take breaks by going inside? Or what if that traffic jam just saved your life from the accident up the road? Could you find gratitude knowing that you got to listen to another song on the radio that you love while sitting in your car, or that, oh yea, you’re still alive? Or what if your stinging tongue from that hot coffee or tea reminds you to be patient when situations get heated,  not to rush into something too soon, or to be mindful to check the temperature of a room, or person, or your own emotions?

Finding Gratitude:

So how do you actually find gratitude when things seem tough? Most importantly, you simply must want to find it. Intention is everything. Then, below are a few more suggestions:

  • Focus more on the lessons you can learn rather than the disappointment, lack, and/or fear.  When you think of life as your teacher, every situation becomes a learning opportunity that is happening for you and not to you
  •  Give yourself a pep talk, be your own biggest cheerleader. Try reciting a few quotes with the sentiment that after something challenging happens, there will be relief. For example, remind yourself that , “After the rain, comes the rainbow,” or that “The Setback is for the Set up”  or “ In the end it’s okay, if it’s not okay, it’s not the end.” This helps instill hope and gives you permission to go through all the feels, not just the ones that feel good
  • Be the change you wish to see. If it is hard for you to find the silver lining in a particularly difficult situation at that moment, do something kind for someone else instead. This will shift your energy into a more positive state when you realize you can be grateful that you made someone grateful!

Cuss to Custom:

So the next time you might want to cuss out a negative situation,  seemingly devoid of any reason to be thankful for it, try creating a new custom of finding the peace within chaos. Instead of exploding or using expletives, set an example to yourself by changing the course of your thoughts and directing them to the positive experience that can still be extracted. This doesn’t mean you need to censor your true feelings. It’s ok to lose it as long as you still try to find the slivers of gratitude in the process!

The point is, the next time you want to say “F gratitude,” will you actively choose to find it instead? If so, we swear this will change your life for the better!
What practices do you swear by? What other ways do you recommend for finding gratitude? Let us know in the comments below.

Abbey Acevedo
About The Author

Abbey Acevedo

ABBEY ACEVEDO is a Youtube motivational speaker, audiobook narrator, poet, caffeine junkie, student of life, and lover of all things related to self and soul development. She is a natural fixer, helper, cheerleader and creative soul who makes people feel supported, connected, worthy, and downright special. The word BE is in her first name and that is no coincidence because being around her inspires you to BE yourself! In December 2018, Abbey underwent an awakening that shifted her perspective about life. She decided to trade in over 15 years of corporate experience for passion and possibilities. She decided to reframe the use of her Master’s degree in Communication Management to help others communicate with their inner selves and master their own destiny. She got bored of board rooms and made it her business to harness her natural superpowers; using her voice and words to remind people of who they truly are! With certifications in healing modalities including Neuro Linguistic Programming, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Reiki, and Guided Meditation, Abbey’s goal is to assist others in recognizing and changing patterns that have kept them stuck or blocked from their true essence so that they can live life more fully and authentically. New Age Coach, Abbey’s YouTube channel, began simply as a personal testament of her journey of self awareness, self reflection, and self development but quickly became something more sensational. Abbey began collaborating with other motivational entrepreneurs, connecting like minded people all over the interwebs, and promoting natural, holistic healing modalities she has used on her path including but not limited to float tanks, craniosacral therapy, salt caves, quantum hypnosis, and crystal healing beds. Through sharing her own story, Abbey gives a permission slip to her audience to do the things that light them up too. Abbey truly is “Lighting the Way for Those on Their Way to the Light.” Youtube Channel: NewAgeCoach Tik Tok: @newagecoach Twitter: @new_age_coach

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This article was so insightful and honest. It takes into account feelings are natural and we should allow ourselves to feel. It also encourages us not to get stuck in that mental space or feeling. I’m a believer that whatever you focus on intensifies and the universe gives you what you need in that moment to prepare you for the next. For me I practice visualizing and repeating to myself “this too shall pass”.

This article came at the right time and reminded me the importance of gratitude.


I love the play on words and the reminder that even in uncertain, dark and challenging times there are still reasons to be grateful and lessons to be learned. This is an excellent reminder and I will start the practice of F-ing gratitude!


Us too. Abbey is such a gifted writer.


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